Once the western United States, Phoenix tourism, hospitality, a local my friends. Friend asked: "High sounds, these days you how to arrange?", I said no so-called, where to go where the fun. Friend says: Saturday, 8 co-workers birthday at his son Party, you do not have other arrangements that day. I be silent, just I have not participated in the gathering of American children. Thus, we advanced to the mall to buy gifts, buy wrapping paper, buy cards, buy gifts in the pocket, very careful, very conscientious, I also bought a Dell Inspiron 8600 Battery, although I do not know this child.
A child's birthday even matter? Touched the hearts of many people, even my kind of irrelevant to their customers, just as much as we held a grand party. In the U.S., for children's birthday, the parents are very respectful, but also early preparation in the form of open Party, but also respect the views of children, not seeing the children as their own accessories, but an independent person.
This could not help but make me think of an American friend Jeffrey gave me said before celebrating his birthday Party, made him a lifetime, lifelong benefit, again, I was particularly impressed, I am not experts in education, but put yourself in the United States of that experience, to share with you.
(A) the responsibility of American small man
In the United States, adult children have held a grand Party.
That year, my friend Jeffrey, 13, his adult birthday, the family held for him a very grand birthday Party.
Of age, is an adult, that is, man again.
With the joy of a man, he was very excited, very proud.
Before the cake cutting, and his father talked about a very serious look as a man of many family responsibilities and social responsibility, little man can take on together with their parents, parents with digital home services work: to be yourself repairs, motor assembly car sharing home mowing, house painting, carpentry repairs, simple manual labor, but also go out as laborers, such as the summer to help people push mower, shoveling snow in winter, autumn sweep the leaves and so on ... ...
"Now, the first thing you as a man, is the need to find a part-time work as a first step into the social understanding of the community."
After hearing this, Jeffrey spot very surprised, but no way, since it is a man we should, as a man, so he recognized one by one like uncles again, and finally, he thought of opening a home near restaurants away from the uncle, immediately go out, went to the restaurant, told the Dell Vostro 1500 Battery: "I have a man, and to make a job, I'd like uncle work." So, who agree with his uncle, the restaurant dishes weekend and wages.
Jeffrey happily home, proudly announced to all staff: I am a man! I have found a first job! Since then, he knows how to work glory, their own money to buy things, problems themselves, to the present, he is an optimistic, cheerful, successful developers. He told me later he knew, his father and uncle, who has long been collusion, he was so easy to find a job washing dishes.
Americans attach great importance to the child's responsibility to educate, from small start, start small. Therefore, some of the parents attached great importance to the child's day with special significance, such as birthdays, graduations. They think it is adult children, to society's logo and the starting point, so in these days will be held in a very grand party, each student, including about a dozen relatives, including parents, to participate in these meetings. For example, the graduation ceremony. Parents not only to go to school ceremony, each family but also in the school after graduation, the organization Party to celebrate graduating from high school and adult children, adults get a commemorative gift. Children understand and remember: he an adult, to entirely responsible for their own. Children learn to be responsible in their own, the realization of the family, community, national responsibility.
(B) of the importance of American children are very confident in the
Looking back, we then say that I attended in Phoenix it Jamie's Birthday Party.
Relatives of both parents, and his kids and the parents of the children came, he felt very vigorous today very proud, and he greeted us as host, entertain friends, the size of
The birthday Dell Inspiron e1505 Battery, give me the deepest experience is: American parents send their children from childhood as a separate entity treated equally and give due respect and understanding of children, and children being taken seriously in the very confident.
(C) American children are the parents of independent self-confidence "cruel" to Make
I can not say all good American education, are successful, but they educate their children the kind of western kids to engage in newspaper delivery and other work, is itself a spirit of bearing hardships of training.
In the cold winter, when China's thermal blanket age children are still asleep, the West had a child together had to deliver newspapers from house to house. This is the spoiled child of Chinese parents might seem "cruel", and it is these seemingly cruel way of education, so that American children, childhood have powerful ability to adapt, grow up, know how to take care of themselves, so that their own lives better.
In contrast, Chinese parents to become too "warmth" of the.
I would like to contribute to this different concept of family education, the root of the problem actually belongs to the children: the children of their own or belong to parents.
In China, children are the parents of private property as it belongs to parents, all have to listen to their parents; in the United States, children are independent individuals, they belong to themselves but also to the society, they have their own preferences, choice, privacy, communication circle.
The resulting leads to another problem for the parents of their children.
Chinese parents of children in care is infinite, from small to large, parents will be everything to help their children to good food, living, learning, including economic. Children will find ways to save money for college, to go abroad, get married, buy a house, raise children and so on. When parents do this all the time, we do willingly sacrifice is very great.
In the United States, parents do not put children down all the packages, but the child must also bear some housework. Such as the swing table, wash their clothes, cut lawn. Many children eat, drink, the cost of studying, are working to earn their own (at school, in the community) to, you can also work at home, the parents recorded wages.
This appears to be very "cruel", but it is the best child care.
This "cruel" family Dell Inspiron 8200 Battery, the core idea is actually:
Encourage the children to less protection. Encourage your child to do all sorts of attempts at doing, to do the training, trained abilities, interests, the most important is to establish self-confidence. Excessive protection, resulting in the child dependent on their parents, so that children suspected of or loss of self-worth and ability to understand and evaluate all have to wait for their parents. Parents fear their children were injured, wronged, a lot of things or activities that parents considered dangerous, dirty and so keep the kids play.
Little more than indoctrination boot. "I think ... ... would be better? I suggest is ... ..., you want to hear my opinion?", Etc. This is America, parents often spoke of the way the child. "You are young, listening to Mom's. Tell how you do not listen? Wrong it, you do not see eye to listen to old people suffer in the eyes." Etc. This is indeed a child of Chinese parents often talk way. Guide will inspire children to think further on the basis of thinking and make judgments may be wrong, and this is growing up. Indoctrination of children in terms of just passive acceptance, which will bound the child's self-confidence.
In fact, this "cruel" is embodied in the child's respect, understanding, encouragement, guidance. Respect and understanding is to develop self-confidence of the soil, encourage and guide the best nutrients to cultivate self-confidence
Reading links:
A U.S. media have been published in an article on family education, introduction of the American family in the healthy development of parents to educate their children 12 basic rules.
1. Vesting rule: to ensure a healthy family environment children grow up;
2. Want to rule: Never let the children see hope;
3. The power rule: Never fight with your kids strong;
4. Management rules: the minor child before the bundle is the responsibility of parents;
5. Sound rules: Although no power to decide child at home, but be sure to listen to their voices;
6. An example rule: words and deeds influence on children is enormous;
7. Seek common ground rules: respect the child's view of the world, and try to understand them;
8. Punishment rule: This rule is easy for children to have antagonistic and revenge, caution!
9. The consequences of law: let the children know their behavior in the real world consequences that may arise;
10. Structural rule: to teach kids to understand the moral and legal boundaries;
11. "20 yards" rule: fostering children's independence, and their parents for at least 20 yards of distance;
12. "What Four" rule: Under no circumstances should children learn together with whom, in what place, in the dry what, and when to go home.
From the 12 basic rules, we can see, the Americans almost reading tutoring, learning, performance, independent Dell Inspiron 9300 Battery
, but rather focus on "life", focusing on character, accomplishment, self-confidence, foster independence.
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